What Are Boundaries, Really? (And Why You Deserve to Have Them)
- Kelly Blenus
- Apr 21
- 2 min read
Updated: 6 days ago
Let’s talk about boundaries—but not in a complicated, clinical way. We’re keeping it real here. What are boundaries, really?
At their core, boundaries are the internal lines we draw to help us feel safe. They're how we teach ourselves—and the people around us—what’s okay and what’s not okay. That’s it. Nothing fancy, just some much-needed clarity around our needs, comfort, and respect.
You can think of boundaries like the walls of your home. They don’t trap you inside. They don’t make you cold or distant. What they do is protect your peace. They give you the power to decide who and what gets to come in, and under what conditions.
Boundaries can sound like:
“I need some alone time tonight, but I’d love to hang out another day.”
“I’m not available for that right now.”
“If you continue to talk to me like that, I'm going to walk away from this conversation.”
“If you continue to disrespect my space by sending me unwanted messages, I will need to block you..”
"It makes me uncomfortable to attend those events, so I'm going to stay home."
See? Simple. Not rude. Just honest communication about what you need to feel okay.
So if boundaries are new to you—or if you’ve been told they’re “too much”—let this be your reminder: your needs matter and your peace matters.
Setting boundaries doesn’t make you hard to love—it makes your love (for yourself and others) even more grounded and real.
Here is a quick micro-learning session called "Where Do I Even Need Boundaries?" to help you along the way. This short, browser based mini-course includes a 3-step framework, and a one page handout to help you along the way.
Don't stay stuck. Remember, you're a total badass. You can do this!
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